For more years than I care to admit, my wardrobe remained neglected, due to my perpetual state of “any day now, my body will change…..”. Can you relate? It was always going to be the next month, the next year, the next diet, and *then* I would be worthy of the new clothes that I was dreaming of. Of course, there was a practical consideration that many of the clothes I wanted in stores weren’t actually available in my size – but I would deny myself even those that were, in the constant hope and expectation that my body would change any minute now.
Learning to sew clothes didn’t even help that much, because I also didn’t want to invest lots of time and energy making something when I was surely going to not fit it soon, and I was always looking at patterns that didn’t come in my size – in the belief that soon they would be.
But you know what? I’m so glad that I got past this (long) phase! And let me tell you: life is SO much better when you stop waiting, and sew it now. Realistically, most of us bounce around a fairly similar weight range, but even if you don’t, there are clever ways to sew that will let you make garments you’ll be able to continue wearing.
Here’s why I think you should SEW IT NOW!
You deserve to look nice, and feel happy and confident TODAY
I totally get it: accepting your body as it is can be incredibly difficult, and it’s been a long and ongoing process for me. But you know what? It really doesn’t matter if your ideas about your body and actual body don’t match up – you still deserve to look lovely, and to get the confidence that nice clothes bring, today. Not when you reach some theoretical goal: TODAY! If you don’t want to use your most expensive fabric when you know you’re in a temporary body fluctuation, that’s totally understandable – but I think we all know the mood-enhancing wonder that is making a Tried’n’True pattern in a fabby fabric, and why would you deny yourself that? You’re also working on your hobby, using your hands, being productive and relieving stress – getting on with sewing now has so many benefits!
If you want to make changes in your life, you’ll be more likely to do it if you’re feeling good.
You know what never helped someone change? Feeling terrible and beating themselves up. If you’re aiming to make positive changes in your life, like taking up a new fun physical activity or starting a meditation habit, it’s so much easier to do if you’re already feeling positive. Too often I see plus size and curvy women spiralling into a cycle of self-criticism, but the irony is it’s highly unlikely to lead to any positive change! Let your “ideal” plans go, do some sewing, wear your new garment with a smile and you may well find you have a lot more energy to make the changes you want.
Any person of any size can look fantastic in any style
I can’t believe how long it took me to learn this one! I used to think that certain garments – say, motorcycle jackets or maxi skirts – were only for people with a certain body size or shape. Sewing has made me realize that this is total bunkum! Making a well-fitting garment, with proportions that work for your shape, is in the reach of absolutely any person of any dimensions. Don’t put off sewing something because you think you need to change your body to look good in it. It’s simply not true – yes, you need to make something in the right size, and need to get a good fit for it to look great, but those are absolutely achievable goals! And way more achievable than trying to fundamentally change how your body wants to be.
Finally, there’s always more fabric
I get it: it can feel very intimidating to use a fabric that feels special, and it’s very easy to fall into the mindset of thinking “I’ll use this at a later date when XYZ is different”. If you’re waiting to improve a certain sewing skill until you use that expensive cashmere? Totally understandable! And a goal you can work towards. But not allowing yourself to sew with and wear fabric until you change your body just isn’t the same, in my opinion. There is ALWAYS more fabric – and anyway, who wants to keep using the same stuff? If your body does end up changing, then there’s always something else fabulous around the corner! Of course, not everyone can afford to use any fabric at any time, but first, have a think about what you can make that will be flexible to your body even if it changes, and second, the point is less about expense, and more about the tendency to “hoard” special fabric. Put it this way: what will bring you more joy – your fave printed cotton sitting in a dark corner of your stash? Or wearing it out once a week and sneaking a peek in every store window as you walk by? I know which I prefer!
What do you think? Do you have a tendency to put off sewing for a “it-will-maybe-never-happen” future? Or are you pushing forward, knowing that you deserve lovely garments right now, and you’ll have the most chance to change if you feel positive? I’d love to know!
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